Why is it so hard to hook up online?
I’ve been playing around on a well-known gay dating and profile hook-up site, and I have to say that the whole experience leaves me feeling nothing but frustration. First of all, are there any tops left in the world, or is everyone a bottom now. When posting an ad in the “quick connect ads” section, I’m overwhelmed by the competition for hole-filling service.
I have managed to attract the attention of one top, a rough-looking dude with a 9-inch cock that he claims is also six inches around. Woof! My ass is aching to feel a pounding from this well-hung stud. I set up a date with him last week, but when I buzzed his apartment there was no answer. Nothing pisses me off more than spending 30 minutes in the shower cleaning my hole just to find that I’ve been stood up. Later he said, “Sorry, I was still sleeping.” I guess people don’t use alarm clocks any more.
I hesistantly set up a second potential hook-up for yesterday morning. We were going to talk more that morning to see what we could arrange. When I got a hold of him, he apologized saying he was just heading out the door and didn’t know when he’d be back. Clearly this guy isn’t interested in hooking up, and I hope that I’ve wasted enough time on him. Still, the lure of a 9 x 6-inch cock is tingling in the back of my mind.
I hate guys who are playing the “I want you to want me” game. If you’re not interested in following through, then why waste everyone’s time? Is this standard on gay dating and hook-up sites or do people actually connect for real-time sex? If this is the way it is in the gay online, hook-up world, my foray into it is going to be short-lived. How’s your hook-up success with these sites? Do you get any action or is it just a lot of talk?
Yeah… Those of us who are tops seem to be sorta rare these days. We probably have better luck than bottoms but even so I’ve learned to double book knowing one will probably fall through. I’ve got an easier time hooking up than a bottom, but even tops have things fall through on a regular basis.
It may be best for bottoms to view the hookup sites as a screening process to find regular fuck buddies and then do everything you can to be available when the FB needs a hole since some tops like to have dependable bottoms on call (not me so much – I like variety). But if you’ve got a demanding job, or a boyfriend, etc. being constantly available can be impossible.
Then there’s the whole body type issue. Some bottoms just find it easier to get fucked because they’re considered ‘hot’ by a broader selection of guys. I know perfectly hot bottoms who hate it when some porn star goes into a sex club – ’cause all the tops want to give their loads to the porn star and the regular guys go home empty. Unfortunately, the closer a bottom can get to one of the popular types the more they’ll get fucked. It’s sorta like why ugly rich straight men always have beautiful thin women as wives and girlfriends.
Another issue is the whole safe sex vs raw thing. Given how competitive it is for bottoms and how many bottoms will go raw and take the load, I’d hate to be a safe sex bottom these days – it puts them at a real competitive disadvantage. With so many bottoms available who will take a top’s load, why would a top choose a safe sex bottom? Makes me wonder how many bottoms get “forced” into barebacking just to so they can get fucked on a reasonably consistent basis…
But even with all those things I still people have an easier time hooking up now than they did before the Internet became so popular.